Kelly: We were good ol’ fashion friends from the fall of 2010 to the fall of 2011. Then we were friends with benefits until I moved to Seattle, and then back to just friends until October of 2013.
When he showed up in Indiana the last time, I was terrified to try and date ANYBODY for real.
But it quickly felt natural and right after all that talking and sharing.
Ashley: We hooked up for a semester in college, then spent about two years being mostly just friends again while he did an internship in NY (I was still based in Indiana) then moved to Seattle.
After a year in Seattle he came back to Indiana to visit, and we decided to try and date for real. Ashley: We talked so much about every decision and all of our feelings so that even when it felt weird, it quickly went back to not feeling weird.
Ashley: We met in a seminar that was set up like a production company, and I was his boss. About a year later, after ending a terrible relationship and getting fired from my job, I went to a party at his house.
He asked if anybody wanted to go four-wheeling, and I said I did. Kelly: She didn’t really know it was supposed to be a date. Ashley: I’m bisexual, and if this were true, I wouldn’t have any friends. And I have been attracted to most of them at some point or another, just not in a way that I could or wanted to sustain. Kelly: I think that viewing relationships as an inevitable thing that happens between two people who are attracted to each other takes away from the emotional vulnerability, and work, that goes into building strong commitments.
Kelly: Well, you spend as much time together as you possibly can, eventually you get irritated for pretty much no reason. One of our goals this year is to spend more time with other people because we need that to avoid some of those moments when we’re staring at each other and thinking, “OMG, GO AWAY!
Ashley: We sometimes get stuck in our little bubble, just seeing each other, just talking to each other, just hanging out together, and it’s fun for a really long time. ”Kelly: Talk to your friend, see how they feel, and go from there.
We had a shared history, our siblings adored each other and we even went on a few joint-family vacations.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating