Dating parent singles
It might sound harsh to ditch someone because they’re happy simply cuddling on the sofa once a week, but as a single mum, my free time when I can actually leave the house is precious, and I certainly didn’t want to waste it watching telly with Tom.I’ve been flying solo since my divorce a few years ago, not long after my son Josh*, now five, was born. I was in my early 30s, single for the first time in 10 years and, after the trauma of a failed marriage, was keen to go out, have some fun and meet new people.
But I soon got the wind knocked out of my sails when I opened up to friends and family about my newfound love life.
Their negativity was surprising and quite upsetting at times. One friend suggested I should just focus on being by myself, while a particularly charming family member questioned why being a mother wasn’t ‘enough for me’.
As his kids were grown up, he didn’t suggest we have our first date at a soft play area or express his disdain for solo parents.
Gradually I introduced him to Josh, and I also felt like I could trust him with my post-baby body.
Now when I spot the word ‘spontaneous’ in a man’s dating profile, I swipe left.
I do realise this all sounds pretty depressing, but then, by some miracle, when I’d been single for around a year I met Jack* – someone I really liked who seemed to really like me.
That’s another part of hook-ups I’ve found difficult – someone who isn’t the father of my child (and therefore has no obligation to be kind) seeing my body.
It doesn’t get any easier as time passes, but a combination of wine, leaving some clothes on and having the lighting low works for me.
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