Hushed is an app that provides secure calling and messaging around the world, available on Google Android and Apple i Phone.

Of course, you want to end up with the person who ranks 1st — let’s call this person X. And as n gets larger the larger timeframe we consider, this probability will tend to zero.

It means out of all the people you could possibly date, let’s say you foresee yourself dating 100 people in the next 10 years (more like 10 for me but that’s another discussion), you should see about the first 37% or 37 people, and then settle for the first person after that who’s better than the ones you saw before (or wait for the very last one if such a person doesn’t turn up)How do they get to this number? Let’s say we foresee N potential people who will come to our life sequentially and they are ranked according to some ‘matching/best-partner statistics’.

Below is a graph that shows the optimal ratio M/N as we increase the number of candidates we consider.

There are some interesting observations here: as we increase the number of candidates N that we consider, not only does the optimal probability decreases and see to converge, so does the optimal ratio M/N.

Hushed created an infographic that shows some base level information in keeping yourself safe in the online dating world.

With Valentine's Day being not only a day of romance, but a day of crippling loneliness, it's a good time for a reminder about how messed up the online dating world is.

Will I ever get close to dating 10, 50 or 100 people?

1: Man, can't you even enjoy a harmless TV show without picking it to pieces? RH: I guess it's easier to feel that way when you're not the punchline. I was checking out a new show on a friend’s recommendation.

So does that mean we should always aim to date at most 3 people and settle on the third? The problem is that this strategy will only maximize the chance of finding the best among these 3 people, which, for some cases, is enough.

But most of us probably want to consider a wider range of option than the first 3 viable options that enter our life.

The first episode revolved around a crossdressing man/trans woman (unclear/conflated in the show) with all the wonderful humour that comes with normative perspectives on gender expression. We all need something to decompress, and pretty much every piece of media we have to consume is problematic in some way. There’s just something insidious and sad about humour and jokes that amplify problematic attitudes and reenforce norms. It is not without it’s faults (there’s a fat-shame-y episode that isn’t great…), but a bunch of it’s humour is around dismantling stereotypes and exploring unique characters and relationships.

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