Internet single parent dating

"What people worry about most is the well-being of their parents.

They're concerned their parents are out of the loop of dating and going to pick someone who is going to treat them badly," says Stacy Kaiser, a Southern California psychotherapist who works with the women on "Diet Tribe," Lifetimes' reality show about five female friends who try to lose weight and get fit.

One of her clients hacked into his mother's e-mail account and, posing as her, sent rejections to potential suitors.

Anderson, a 40-year-old teacher in nearby Northfield, Minnesota, then persuaded his mother to try e Harmony, going so far as to help her set up her profile and read the e-mail responses she received. "When it comes to the sex thing, I tell parents, 'Your adult child might not want to hear all the details,'" says Kaiser.

"I didn't know the difference between a Web page and an e-mail. "They may not even want to hear that you kissed.' People are uncomfortable imagining their 60-year-old mother making out in the back of a car." Kaiser does recommend parents and children in this situation keep lines of communication open, but children need to realize that "their parents have a life; their parents are grown up." Meanwhile, parents need to recognize their child's concerns.

"Every time I would go online, she'd have a hissy fit, and say I wasn't safe, and yadda yadda," says Potter, a nursing instructor from Buffalo Grove, Illinois.

"There's creepy people out there," says April, a medical coder from Lena, Illinois.

Registered users ages 45-64 jumped 9 percent from 2007-2008, Becky Teraoka, the site's public relations manager said.

And given that many older boomers are parents with grown children, it's perhaps unsurprising that conflicts occur.

"Online, they are complete strangers, and they can lie to you about anything and everything." Plus, she points out, her mother "hadn't dated in years and years and years." Susan eventually quit online dating -- after too many miscues with men who, indeed, were not who they portrayed themselves to be -- and joined a singles club.

She thinks that she has now met "probably the love of my life." But April was so upset with her mother's online dating that she refused to meet the boyfriend for eight months.

I tried to tweak the profile to my current situation, but realized it was hopeless – every aspect of it needed changing.

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