Term for older men dating younger women
Often, they also had cool mid-century furniture in their flats as opposed to Ikea and would make you a martini if you booty called them after the pub’.Daisy is now married; her husband is 17 years older than her.‘He’s really kind and right on and never a twat compared to some of my friend’s partners, who are their own age’.
Indeed, there is a definite imbalance when an older man dates a younger woman that, as a woman, it can be hard to shake.
This is something I struggled with when dating an older man, I couldn't help thinking about all of the women his own age he didn't have his shit together for and finding myself siding with them. He’s really fit but also, he’s got it together and his age probably helps with that. When he was ‘wooing’ me, he was quite straight up about it.
She was, in part, drawn to him because, unlike men her own age, he ‘didn’t behave as though he had endless options on Tinder and [she] was just another drop in the ocean.
Susan thinks there’s definitely an issue with younger men today behaving badly because dating apps and bro culture endorse it.
As one self-described ‘grandad botherer’ aged 30, (let’s call her Daisy) told The Debrief ‘during my twenties I just realised that older guys were classier and cooler about most stuff than men by own age’.
She added that, following extensive research in this area, she discovered that guys who were 40 were also ‘in general, better in bed, had their own place, made excellent breakfasts, were never a dick about it if you didn’t want to see them again and don’t mind when you get pissed and called them 15 times in a row at 4 AM.Initially, Susan says, she resisted the idea of dating someone older than her because of the cliché factor. I can’t stand it…that recent thing with Brad Pitt being linked to Ella Purnell, who is 21 and looks exactly like a young Angelina Jolie made me furious.‘I was so torn about this’ she says ‘I still am sometimes. It’s always the case in films, older men having their pick of younger women’.The mythologising of older men is at once frustrating and intriguing in equal measure: they’re often referred to as ‘silver foxes’ and ‘dad or shags’.An age gap can be good, it can be bad and it can be downright creepy.Society continues to put labels on what women desire, whether referring to older or younger partners.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating